True Motivation Comes From Within

We all hear how we can be motivated by other people. Whenever I coach one of my clients or speak in front of a group, most of them have said that I’m a good motivational speaker. The truth is, I cannot motivate anybody else except for me. I may help to inspire people, but I do not motivate them. People will motivate themselves for their own reasons.

The old “carrot in front of the horse” trick is a motivational tool that gets the horse to want to move towards it. It wasn’t something external that motivated the horse, but its internal drive to wanting to eat so it doesn’t starve. What people perceive as external motivators cannot get somebody to really want to do something unless they want to.

So what are the reasons that people motivate themselves? It starts with a person’s values and beliefs. Whatever we want out of life and want to get it, what we value and what we believe in has a major influence on our behavior. That’s one of the reasons that a person who wants a lot of money, but their values are based on the assumption that “money is the root of all evil” will not truly be motivated to earn a lot of money. Externally they may think they can, but internally is what counts.

In fact, our top five values are what drive us to do the things we do. Those values can come from many areas of our life. That includes our parents, our culture, our community, our religion, our friends, our experiences, and so forth. Probably the main area where our values come from is from our parents. We looked up to them when we were children and what they believed in and valued usually became ours.

The good news is that many of our values do change and we have some control over when that happens. Our beliefs also change. What we may have believed years ago may not necessarily be what we believe in today. That’s one of the reason we will see politicians change political parties.

Who we associate with will have an effect on our beliefs. It has been said that we are the sum average of the top five people we associate with the most. Think about your friends you have today, are they the same as the ones you had in high school? If you went away to college and many of your high school friends stayed home and worked at McDonalds or started a career as a mechanic, did you see them in a different light when you visited with them afterward? How about if you went away in the military, did your perception change? We developed different associations when we went away. What we believed in changed. And even some of our values may have changed.

Everything counts. Everything we do, who we hang around, what we put into life, the actions we took or didn’t take – all counts. Think about what got you to where you are now. What are some of things in your life that motivated you to do the things you did? What motivates you now?

If I were to ask you if you only had 6 months to live and $1 million dollars in the bank, what would you do with the time you had left?

True Motivation Comes From Within was originally published at Ezine Articles by Robert Choat

Ex Girlfriend Quotes – Learn Why You Should Never Google Ex Girlfriend Quotes

If you find yourself Googling ex girlfriend quotes than you are not mentally in the right state (if you ever want her back). Posting sad quotes that are directed at your ex girlfriend puts you in a submissive state. This is not attractive and is not going to guilt her back into your arms.

Posting those ex girlfriend quotes on your Facebook, away messages, or any other social media network is going to hurt your chances of getting her back. That is an act out of desperation and shows that you truly need your ex girlfriend and are upset not being with her.

Even if you are devastated by not being with your girl, you can not let her know that because it will be used against you. Posting those quotes will indirectly push her further away and give her a sense of satisfaction and control.

When I went through my devastating breakup my ex girlfriend would put some of those quotes up and I would immediately look for retaliation quotes to top hers. Little did I know that I would have been better off writing that I was out with friends on my away messages.

You need to stay in a positive mental state. Googling ex girlfriend quotes just means you are in a negative, sad, and submissive state. It is human nature to want what you can’t have so if you want your girl back don’t let her know she can have you back whenever she wants.

Make her think you’re doing fine without her and you are more than capable of moving on. If she looks for those sad quotes and they aren’t there and she sees somewhat positive and happy ones her mind is going to backfire.

She is going to be curious to why you are happy while not being with her. She will start asking herself questions like what is making you so happy, could it be another girl, have you really moved on, etc.

This will naturally draw her back in. She will want to text you or call you to see what you have been up too. It is only natural for that to happen. Imagine if you just broke up with her and her away message says “out for the night:).” How would that make you feel?

Be smart about what you do. If she broke up with you than you need to regain the control in your relationship and almost mind trick her back into your arms. Believe me it is possible because I have done it.

Have you ever noticed that when you try so hard to please your girl a lot of times its great and all but sometimes its like nothing can ever please her? No matter what you do it isn’t good enough and you try so hard.

However, there have been times where you haven’t really paid much attention to her and yet she’s all over you and the ball is in your court. You make the moves when your in this position. You can do something so small and she’ll act like you just purposed to her. It all goes back to her wanting what she can’t have. You didn’t give her much attention so she naturally becomes starving for it.

Now don’t get mixed up and just start ignoring your girl completely because that won’t work either. Once you have gained the control you need to throw in some of those cute kind acts to give her a little bit of satisfaction but not too much.

Ex Girlfriend Quotes – Learn Why You Should Never Google Ex Girlfriend Quotes was originally published at Ezine Articles by Rich Picardi

The Recipe For Self-Esteem

This thing called Self-Esteem is a combination of many things. As complicated as it might seem I will list some of the ingredients that are baked into it so you get an idea how it’s made. You might not agree with who I believe makes it, but you can’t deny what goes into making it.

Were not born with self-esteem, it’s an accumulation of ingredients we experience over a period of time. It can be low esteem or anything up to and including high esteem. This will change as we encounter different things throughout our lives.

These things that happen to us, the thoughts and feelings we have, where do they come from? I will give you my thoughts on this in a few moments, but first lets list the ingredients for the self-esteem recipe.

2 cups of your weaknesses

1 cup of temptation

2 tablespoons of greed

1 tablespoon of anger

1/2 cup of your accomplishments, successes, charity and hope

1 cup of your failures

1 teaspoon of the following – pride, stress, anxiety, regret and fear

I left out a lot of things, but you get the idea. There are a lot of things that go into the mix when it comes to forming this thing called esteem.

You know the one thing I left out from the list above, it’s YOU. All those ingredients are useless unless you are in the mix. The success of this recipe all depends on how you, will it come out burnt or will it come out as a something good to eat.

What I Believe

This you may or may not believe, but here goes.

All the things you encounter in life turn into thoughts. These in turn create feelings and these feelings mold you into who you are. Of course one of these is your esteem.

I think we can agree that there are many more negative than positive things we experience in this world and there’s a reason for this. It’s called evil or sin.

The question is, how will you digest it? When you bake all these ingredients inside of you, what will the final product look like?

You see this thing called Sin knows your weaknesses, it knows how to take good and make it bad, it uses your thoughts and presents you with negative influences to kill your esteem. It is an Esteem Killer.

It does a lot more than this, but esteem covers a lot of ground so it’s especially good at killing that.

Now the question is, what will you do about it?

Knowing what’s at the core of all of this, what are the first steps to take?

The Recipe For Self-Esteem was originally published at Ezine Articles by Ric Bai

Goal Setting – How to Turn Your Desktop Wallpaper Into a Motivational Aid Using a Picture Collage

Although you may already have a number of goal setting strategies in place, I’d like to share another one with you that I recently incorporated into my day. The seed for this article was planted on Oct 29, 2008 while attending the Success Blueprint Workshop put on by Master Certified Coach Andrew Barber-Starkey of the ProCoach Success System. Andrew indicated that one of the best ways to build self confidence and to reach your goals is to always look for ways to “Impress Yourself”.

Impress Yourself Screen Saver

I find “Impress Yourself” to be one of the better motivational quotes I have heard and wanted to have it somewhere highly visible in my everyday life. I thought the best place to put this motto was on my computer monitor as a screen saver. With this creative idea I would be seeing the motivational quote “Impress Yourself” floating across my computer monitor many times over the day. My plan was that this visual aid would remind me of my previous goal setting activities, so I could refocus my efforts and move forward.

The Generation of an Idea

While I found the screen saver to be a powerful technique, this next idea I found to be even more so! I went to Bob Proctor’s weekend seminar “Create Your Own Economy” in May 2009. Both Bob Proctor and Gerry Robert were at this seminar. I find these two entrepreneurs to be great educators and feel inspired and motivated by what they have to say. Fortunately, I was able to obtain a picture of myself with each of these men at this conference. I planned to use these pictures as one of my desktop themes. I knew seeing these pictures on a daily basis would help me in the area of self improvement and motivation.

This presented me with a dilemma. Up to this point, I had been rotating the desktop wallpaper picture on my computer screen on a semi regular basis, generally using my children individually or together at different events or phases of their lives. As I did not think my children would appreciate being displaced from my monitor, I decided to create a simple photo collage of my children and educators.

A Simple Picture Collage

In my first attempt to produce my own free desktop wallpaper featuring my children and educators, I used Microsoft Word. I added the pictures to one page of a Word document and then added the motivational quote “Impress Yourself”. I copied and saved the file in Paint as a .jpg and used it as my computer wallpaper. This simple picture collage inspired me on a daily basis as I saw it every time I was working on the computer.

The Big Picture Collage Idea

Around the same time as I was working on my simple Word collage, my nine year old daughter was making a massive photo collage using PowerPoint. She was pasting numerous pictures onto the same slide and overlapping them. As I watched her create her masterpiece, my mind raced to create one of my own. It became immediately apparent that creating a picture collage in PowerPoint was much faster and easier than using Word. You can easily drag pictures around the slide, arrange their layout as you wish and overlap the pictures.

Building My First Large Photo Collage

For my first large picture collage, I added about 75 pictures to a standard PowerPoint slide, but I soon learned that unless your computer monitor is the same length and width as a standard piece of paper the photo collage will be skewed. I changed the size of my PowerPoint slide to match the exact size of my computer monitor screen, added more pictures, a couple of motivational quotes and saved this picture collage as one of my desktop backgrounds.

For a standard 19″ LCD computer monitor, which has a viewing area of around 180 square inches, I estimate you could be looking at between 75 to 150 pictures instead of just one. My largest picture is about nine square inches while my smallest is about one square inch. You may think that a small picture one square inch in size is too small but I find that this is all you need to prompt yourself. For example, I have a small 1 inch square picture of a multi family house on my picture collage. As soon as I look at this picture, I immediately see and visualize a house I would like to build for low income earners. The rooms are small but it is a home which people can afford and with ownership hopefully comes the building of self esteem. While you may not totally be able to pick out the details in the photo, the purpose of the picture is to trigger your mind to remember your goals. I find pictures of this size address this concept very well.

Personal Goal Setting

I find that there are two major advantages of including your goals in your computer desktop wallpaper. First, all of your past accomplishments and future goals are right in front of you on a daily basis. Seeing what you have already accomplished assures you that you are capable of creating more for yourself. Second, the time required to review your goals in picture format is quite quick. For instance, I have a dream book which contains what I want to accomplish in the future. However, as I am generally under time constraints, I rarely look at my dream book. Yet everyday I am reminded of my goals when I am working on my computer through my computer wallpaper photo collage. In essence, my computer desktop wallpaper has become my vision board as well as my dream book.

Personal growth educators generally want you to review your goals as much as possible. By using this photo collage technique, I have my whole dream book and vision board in front of me every day. I think this is a great goal setting tip and a good self improvement and motivation technique. This simple idea is not only easy to implement but fun to put together. Additionally, it very quickly reminds me of my goals on a daily basis. This gentle reminder tends to stop me from doing things which do not advance me and focus me on what needs to get done to achieve my personal goals.

My Results

One of my main goals is to become a better stock trader. Since viewing the phrase “Impress Yourself” and looking at my photo collage on a daily basis, I have tried very hard to always use extreme discipline when trading stocks. I find I can do this best by controlling risk, always having stops in place and by generally limiting the time I am in the stock market. For me, just a slight shift in mental attitude has improved my ability to trade stocks.

Your Challenge

What small shift in thinking do you need to dramatically change your life around? What goals are you searching for? Can you use this self improvement and motivation technique in your life?

Are you ready to start to build your first picture collage and use this simple idea to inspire you on a daily basis which hopefully will lead you to an improved life? When building your photo collage include the pictures that you think will best motivate you to succeed. You can also include inspiring, motivational quotes to further guide you.

In a picture collage, you can put a large picture on the bottom and then put a number of pictures on top of it. Simply send the large picture to the back. In this manner you can increase the number of pictures on the slide. If you are unsure about how to build a picture collage in PowerPoint or Word I have put the required information on my website.

I hope looking at this type of photo collage on a daily basis is as inspirational to you as it has been for me.

Goal Setting – How to Turn Your Desktop Wallpaper Into a Motivational Aid Using a Picture Collage was originally published at Ezine Articles by Mark Kelly

10 Sad Love Quotes For Your Crying Heart

Is your heart crying out in sadness? Yes, sometimes love hurts. Sad love quotes will help you to express your anguish and your huge heartache, during those times when love hurts.

You may be facing difficulties in your relationship. You just had a big fight with your guy or girl, and you’re at a loss of what to do. You just broke up with your loved one. You’re thinking about whether to let him or her go and end the relationship. Sad love quotes might help to express whatever that’s deep within you.

At moments like you, you wish you have the words to let your girlfriend or boyfriend know exactly what’s eating at you. Or you simply wish that someone would say something inspirational and comforting to nurse your grieving heart.

During such times when love fails you, let inspirational sad quotes give you a gentle helping hand. Let sad love quotes brings clarify to your thinking and let you know that you’re not alone.

Perhaps you’ve been hesitating for some time already, and one of these quotes might give you the courage to carry out whatever decision your heart is telling you. Or maybe the quote is just what you’re looking for to rebuild your confidence in love.

Pour out your overwhelming emotions with sad love quotes. Hopefully, you’ll learn something valuable that allows you to let go of the pain.

List of 10 Best Sad Love Quotes

1) “You wondered how you’d make it through. I wondered what was wrong with you. Because how could you give your love to someone else, yet share your dreams with me? Sometimes the only thing you’re looking for, is the one thing you can’t see.” – Vanessa Williams

2) “Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.” – Herman Hesse

3) “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of withering, of tarnishing.” – Anais Nin

4) “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all.” – Samuel Butler

5) “I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken — and I’d rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived.” – Margaret Mitchell

6) “What love we’ve given, we’ll have forever. What love we fail to give, will be lost for all eternity.” – Leo Buscaglia

7) “We enjoy warmth because we have been cold. We appreciate light because we have been in darkness. By the same token, we can experience joy because we have known sadness.” – David Weatherford

8) “If you live to be 100, I want to live to be 100 minus one day, so I never have to live without you.” – Winnie the Pooh

9) “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” – Mother Teresa

10) “You can shed tears that she is gone,

or you can smile because she has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back,

or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left.

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her,

or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,

or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember her only that she is gone,

or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind,

be empty and turn your back.

Or you can do what she’d want:

smile, open your eyes, love and go on.” – David Harkins

10 Sad Love Quotes For Your Crying Heart was originally published at Ezine Articles by Fion Lim

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