Be Happy: Happy As You Want To Be

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Almost everyone has heard the hit single ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy’ by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin’s simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer, and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is – ‘The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change’, and in our life, we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this.

Being grateful is a great attitude.  We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also, thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can’t start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers, and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday.  Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -‘Laughter is the best medicine’.

Express your feelings, affections, friendship, and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead, find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.

Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new every day.  Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins, and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do every day to be happy.

And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

What Is True Happiness?

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“True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future, not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient, for he that is so wants nothing. The greatest blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise man is content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.” ― Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Are you happy? If you are, how happy are you?

True happiness refers to the measurement of two kinds of happiness, namely experienced happiness and remembered happiness.

True Happiness

Experienced happiness pertains to those moments of relief, bliss, laughter, or joy that you have experienced within a day. Imagine your friend asking you randomly during lunch time about what you are doing and how happy you actually are at that very moment. That is experienced happiness, the kind of happiness that comes from the things that you do for a particular period of time.

On the other hand, remembered happiness refers to how you think about yourself in general. This is how you will answer that million dollar question “Are you happy with your life?”
This is how you remember those years you had in high school, the vacations that you went to, the holidays you have spent with your whole family, the early days of childhood with other kids, your history of jobs, or even your divorce. Remembered happiness is pretty much like the bigger picture or perspective on your state of happiness.
It is not surprising that experienced happiness and remembered happiness do not match all the time. For instance, millionaires in general have higher rate for their remembered selves compared to those people who only earn $50,000 each year.
However, a millionaire might have more responsibilities in life. He may experience more pressure in his work, with a larger house to run and a spouse who is more demanding.
It only goes to say that even if they are earning millions, these people might have lesser moments of spontaneous happiness during their day to day lives, and living their lives less happily.

Meanwhile, an ordinary employee who considers himself as less happy since he lacks the kind of luxury that he has been dreaming of might, in reality, experience great bliss and pleasure with their jobs, with their family or with their hobbies, thus, they tend to have more blissful moments in their day.
Experienced and remembered happiness might be entirely different things but once you have happy moments in your past and your present, then, you can say that you have reached the so-called true happiness.

Why People Are So Sad Today

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“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.” ― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

With everything happening around the world, with all the wars, natural calamities and other kinds of catastrophes that befall on the people, it is no longer a surprise that many of them end up sad, or worse, even depressed.
If you feel down or you got the blues, then, you should know that you are not alone. Every single person in this world gets sad. When you are sad, you will surely feel that that sadness is bound to last forever. But more often than not, sad feelings do not really last that long – several hours, or even a day or two probably.

Sadness – What is It?

When you feel sad, the whole world might seem unfriendly and dark to you all of a sudden. Deep inside you, you feel that hurt that seems to crush both your spirit and your heart. Most of the time, you find yourself crying, with the tears difficult to stop. For most people, crying alone can already make them feel better. The moment sadness starts fading away, that is the time when you feel as if the heavy and thick blanket has finally be lifted off your heart, and you feel happiness all over again.

The Natural Reasons for Sadness

It is only natural for a person to feel sad every now and then. Maybe you were not able to get that one thing that you have always wanted. Maybe you suddenly missed the presence of a person close to you. You were probably rejected by someone or maybe, you simply do not feel that good about yourself.
People actually have a lot of reasons why they feel so sad at one point in their lives. One of the most common reasons for sadness is loss. Losing someone you love or something important to you will surely induce feelings of sadness. Whether it is the loss of a loved one or a pet or moving to a brand new city and leaving your old friends behind, this kind of losses are enough reasons for a person to be sad.

While relationships are the best source of fun and happiness most of the time, these can still make a person sad. A lot of kids today end up fighting with other members of their family, particularly their parents, as they struggle growing up and gaining independence. Relationships in the workplace can also bring about sadness in most people today, especially when you are constantly having discussions with your colleagues or your boss does not seem to notice your hard work.
But probably the most usual reason why a lot of modern men and women today feel sad is because of self-image, or the way that you feel about yourself. Adults in particular are not totally happy on how they look. They feel inferior with others whether in school, at work and other aspects of their lives. It can be easily observed especially when talking with the opposite sex, with some people feeling shy to do so because for them, they are not that good enough.
While it might be pretty much understandable why many people today feel sad, there is actually no reason for them to dwell on this feeling. At the end of the day, being happy is something that they should strive to achieve, for many reasons.

How To Write A Romantic Love Letter To Your Virtual Date?

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Romantic letters have been instrumental in many love connections made both in past and present times. Learning the art of writing a romantic love letter will definitely make a good impression on the intended party who will be impressed enough to be at the very least interested in making a response.

Expression Through Writing

A romantic love letter is designed to make the other party feel special and honored. The following are some of the points that should be included when considering the format and content of a romantic love letter:

  1. Writing from the heart and being as authentic as possible will help in the design of the letter’s content. Choosing words carefully that are intended to touch the very heart of the intended recipient will also contribute to the letter being special and heartfelt.
  2. Mentioning an action or a word that has inspired the individual’s initial reaction to writing the letter should be expressed. This will show the recipient that the individual has been giving the action or the word some thought.
  3. Thanking the intended recipient for the inspiration that they seem to ignite in the author of the love letter is also another angle to include in the writing of the love letter. Thanking the intended for the positive feelings surfacing and the sudden or heightened positive vibes that have caused changes should also be included.
  4. Explaining the reason the recipient matters to the author of the love letter and how life has changed for the better simply with the presence of the recipient in his or her life even if it is through an online connection will help to further express the impact made and felt.

How To Express Love Despite Your Absence

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There are many ways to express love, but when it is done through the absence of one party the expression takes on an even more powerful meaning. Most people wrongly assume that when the person is apart from a loved one, his or her mind rarely focuses on the other party. However in most cases this is untrue.

There are several different ways an individual can express love despite the existence of the element of absence. The following are some of the ways that have been proven to be very effective:

  1. Sending emails and love notes online is one of the more popular ways that most people indulge in today. This is made easy through the availability of the internet. Therefore distance is no longer an issue and neither is it a viable excuse to not practice this simple form of communication.
  2. Sending flowers is another popular way to display love despite the element of absence. Some places actually have the standing order facility for clients who would want such an arrangement to keep them from getting into trouble when love is not expressed in their absence.
  3. Having gifts ordered online and delivered is also another convenient way of expressing love, even in absence. There is a vast array of things that can be purchased easily and with the least amount of hassle possible, thus making it a viable option to choose from.
  4. Taking the trouble to enlist the help of family and friends to help pass messages that express love whenever possible is also encouraged, as these people collectively will be able to keep in mind whatever is needed to be done in the absence of the individual who enlisted their help. This makes the intended recipient feel loved and remembered.
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